We cannot say we love someone when we fail to obey the person. Likewise, there will not be obedience without love. Note that obedience is different from complying since the later might be done unwillingly.

Jesus said, if you love me, you will obey my commandments. Loving him opens our heart on how to fully and rightly obey him. the 2 but 1 command are synonymous to each other. They go ahnd in hand.